An update for those of you who have been wondering...

So we did hire an attorney. We did take things to court. At our last court date BM would not agree on anything. She is willing to give my husband some parenting time, but only in the state she lives in, and only if her mother supervises. Of course there is no reason my step daughter should not be allowed to cross state lines with us, and of course HER mother supervising obviously is not going to work. Things seem to be in our favor as of now. The judge told BM there is no reason for her to continue to disagree on EVERYTHING, and by doing so she is just making herself look bad.  Things are set for mediation, and there is a court review on June 7th.  We have already drafted our plan for mediation, and we are "giving" a little to "get" a little.  Recently we also found out that BM's new husband(a man she married only 2 weeks after kicking another one out)has been arrested 40-50 times(not an exaggeration) for domestic violence.  A little concerned about that, but that's all going to be brought up in mediation.  When brought up in court last week, BM had her attorney ask if my husband was willing to just sign his rights over. (Of course our attorney said "That's not going to fly") Right now we are just waiting, and watching. I'm confident, and so is my husband. We hope to soon be reunited with my step daughter. Please keep us in your prayers, and keep those fingers crossed!