Is it the the jealousy of the new wifes or is it truly the babymamas? I FILL SORRY FOR THE CHILDREN IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ISSUE?SOME WOMEN DONT KNOW HOW TO MIND THERE BUSINESS AND THE WIFEY HAS NO BUSINESS WITH THE CHILDREN INVOLVED,BECOMEN A WIFE DONT MAKE YOU THE BOMB WHAT MAKES YOU THE BOMB IS RAISING THE BABY THAT SOMEONE DECIDED TO WALK AWAY FROM,SO YOU WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND BEST.
This is the kind of stuff that really irks me, and always triggers a negative response from me. Of course, that is not going to happen, because I no longer respond negatively, or at all for that matter to anything she has to say. Let me just say this:
No. I am not jealous. I have no reason to be. Yes, it is you, it always has been. I really hope you grow up, and realize the drama you have and continue to cause one day. If you feel sorry for the children, then do something about it. You don't have to continue on will all of the BS. I mind my own business, it is you that is constantly starting drama, and talking about ME! Also, my husband IS my business, as well as anything that affects him. I don't think, and have never said I was "the bomb". Nobody decided to "walk away from" their baby either. We have been fighting you in court for 2 years now, and are still continuing to fight. She'll know that someday. You are welcome to think of me as second best, but just remember this. The man you are so continuously jealous over, and can't let go of the fact that he left you...He married ME. He lives with ME. He is with ME. I support what ever decisions he makes. We love each other, and have an awesome life together...If that's second best, I'll take it!!
Thank you for the positive feedback! =)
ReplyDeleteYour ex-wife sounds so much like ours! It's funny how they all seem to think alike, talk alike, etc. I can't tell you how many times I've had 2nd best thrown in my face. Well, let me tell you, if their being 1st is what we're comparing to, my 2nd best is 10x better than her 1st best will ever be. In our case, his ex-wife could/would never just move on. It KILLED her that we had a happy, normal life because she never had that with my Dh, or anyone else, for that matter.
ReplyDeleteFirst...I have to correct you. She was NEVER a wife...only a girl he in his own words got pregnant by accident. I have dealt with the same issues, and I'm sorry there is anyone else out there that has to, too. =) That's what my blog is here for, and I appreciate your feedback! The ex in our case also has the same problem, she can't move on, and can't stand it that dh is happy with me, and never was with her. Her problem, not mine. I used to be bitter towards her, but now I am just sympathetic. She's a very miserable human being, and I feel very sorry for her. =) Hope things are getting better for you, and I'm always here if you need to vent!
ReplyDeleteMy husband's ex hasn't moved on either. She hasn't dated since my husband - he left her 16 years ago! She was never the wife either...just a girl he got pregnant after they picked each other up in the bar (he really should've taken off those beer goggles) and he tried to do the right thing for as long as he could tolerate her. She thought I should mind my own business (she had no understanding that anything that affected my household, my finances, my time in my marriage would be discussed between my husband and I). How clueless on how a successful marriage works. From her reaction and jealousy over my relationship with the kids when they were younger, I often thought she'd prefer I abuse them than love them. It was quite sad.
ReplyDeleteI'm going through the same thing! She has however moved on...if That's what you want to call it. She married a man who could be mistaken for my husband's twin brother. She also believes nothing is any of my business...but when it effects YOUR household and YOUR husband, and YOUR kids...yeah then it's my business! Maybe one day things will be different, but for now I feel like I am in the middle of a lifetime movie. Thanks so much for your positive feedback!!
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ReplyDeleteI Love this!!! And Oh my Lord, It sounds so Very samiliar. I'm so glad you started this Blog. Thank You! And I wish you & your husband the Very Best & hope you win custody. If we had known so many years ago, that we would still be struggling to see my Husband's son...I believe we would have done things differently. We found out trying to work it out, stay nice, be supportive, & trying to be very, very patient and still we have yet to even be allowed to speak to his son. We have been trying since he was 9 years old and he is now about to turn 17 yrs old. I pray someday when his son grows up and gives us a chance; he will see what all his mother has done. Thank you & God Bless You!!
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcome!! I'm so sorry that you've had to go through so much for so long! That's ridiculous! We're still fighting in court, and that's an everyday struggle. My step daughter is only 4, and I hope that it doesn't take that long. All of this is costing a small fortune, but I feel like it will be worth it in the end! Good luck in your journey, and like you said he'll know the truth one day...then who will be to blame??
ReplyDeleteStep-Mom Diaries, I'm very sorry. I can not seem to get away from his EX. I have already had to file a Police Report for harassing & life-threatening threats. I will not post anything else on this site because I do not wish to cause you more trouble than you already deal with. I would defend myself to the many trips we have made to see his son or the many, many gifts, cards, scrapbook, pictures, videos we have sent. The flowers, cards, & gifts we have sent to his mother. The numerous phone calls we have made that always gets ignored, I can go on & on & on....but what's the point? All we are, are liars, deadbeats, & just plain evil people. God Bless ev1 supporting this site & I pray you all Never have to put up with what we have gone through & still going through even after Blocking the EX from everything, having phone numbers changed, & filing a Police Report
ReplyDelete@Sheila. I'm very sorry for what you are going through. I've been there, and still am there. You can post on this site all you want, It's the "Step-mommy diaries" Not the stalk me, and call me out diaries. @Anonymous. I am sorry, but your comments are going to be deleted. I created this site for a positive outlet for STEPMOMS, not for you to get on my page, trying to start an argument. Please go on with your day, and use someone else's site, mine is not the one.
ReplyDeleteAlso @Sheila. I encourage you to check out the website, www.paawareness.org. Very useful information there. For anyone else's future reference, this website encourages a positive outlet for step-moms. It will not be used as a tool to harass anyone. This is MY website. If you want to stalk and harass someone, please do it somewhere else. Thank you!
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ReplyDelete@Anonymous. I understand that. I also understand that this is a public blog, that Sheila used as an outlet to vent, which is fine by me. I might have sided up with you, If you had chose the same. Instead, you found that public outlet she used, and chose to read it, as well as chose to comment on it. If you have truly moved on with your life, then you would have left it alone, bit your tongue, and went about your day.
ReplyDeleteMy stepdaughter's mother, continuously has slandered me, and caused drama. I used to feed into that. I used to find the things she said about me, and commented on them, and let her have it. In the end it just did me no good. I ignore the things she says now, if they are brought to my attention, I come here, and I right about it. That is my outlet, but I do it in a positive fashion. That is hard sometimes, but in the end, better for me, and better for what's most important...my stepdaughter. Every case is different, and I'm sorry for how you feel about yours. My husband and I did not "walk out" on my step daughter, and our spending a fortune to fight for the rights he deserves. He's not a criminal, he doesn't do drugs, and we are a normal family. Yet, we are kept from my stepdaughter, because her mother wants it that way. I created this blog to support other stepmoms going through the same situations...not for bitter mother's to cause drama, and not for stepmoms and moms to argue.(I am both) Please respect that. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteAlso...@Anonymous I encourage you to find your own outlets. Here's a very awesome Mom's blog http://thissinglemomsurvives.blogspot.com/ Check it out.
ReplyDeleteThank you step-mommy diaries. I truly appreciate you. I will be checking out your site to read others's stories but it will Never stop and I will not be able to use your blog without conflict from her. Because she has been blocked & banned from everywhere else; this is her only way to get to me until she finds another way. I wish you the best of luck & truly wish there was a way to send you private messages that could not be viewed but for now. She wins....
ReplyDeleteI also would like to thank you for your blog. We are in a similar situation with BM, and it helps knowing someone else understands. Thanks again!
ReplyDeleteI am very sorry that you have been put in a similar situation. My heart goes out to anyone who has to deal with this kind of BS. I wish you the best in your journey, and you are welcome to use this blog as a place to vent, or escape the drama. =)
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