Does it ever get old??...

Recently a friend of mine alerted me that BM was posting on a public forum wall, from her Facebook.  I checked it out, and this is what I read:

Is it the the jealousy of the new wifes or is it truly the babymamas? I FILL SORRY FOR THE CHILDREN IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ISSUE?SOME WOMEN DONT KNOW HOW TO MIND THERE BUSINESS AND THE WIFEY HAS NO BUSINESS WITH THE CHILDREN INVOLVED,BECOMEN A WIFE DONT MAKE YOU THE BOMB WHAT MAKES YOU THE BOMB IS RAISING THE BABY THAT SOMEONE DECIDED TO WALK AWAY FROM,SO YOU WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND BEST.

This is the kind of stuff that really irks me, and always triggers a negative response from me.  Of course, that is not going to happen, because I no longer respond negatively, or at all for that matter to anything she has to say.  Let me just say this:

No. I am not jealous.  I have no reason to be. Yes, it is you, it always has been.  I really hope you grow up, and realize the drama you have and continue to cause one day.  If you feel sorry for the children, then do something about it.  You don't have to continue on will all of the BS.  I mind my own business, it is you that is constantly starting drama, and talking about ME!  Also, my  husband IS my business, as well as anything that affects him.  I don't think, and have never said I was "the bomb".  Nobody decided to "walk away from" their baby either. We have been fighting you in court for 2 years now, and are still continuing to fight.  She'll know that someday.  You are welcome to think of me as second best, but just remember this. The man you are so continuously jealous over, and can't let go of the fact that he left you...He married ME. He lives with ME.  He is with ME.  I support what ever decisions he makes.  We love each other, and have an awesome life together...If that's second best, I'll take it!!

Making the right decisions...

My sweet husband made the right, and ultimately best decision. We have hired an attorney, and are proceeding with the custody matter.  I can't help but feel some fear, because I know BM is going to drag us through the mud.  I know the end results will be worth it, but it's the whole process we're getting ready to go through. It's going to be WWIII.  I hope mostly that this won't affect my step daughter, or traumatize her in any way.  This is going to be a struggle both financially, and emotionally.  We're going to need all the support we can get.

Something else I'd like to bring to light...Tomorrow..Feb. 15, is my stepdaughter's birthday.  It's been 2 years since my husband was allowed to be with his daughter on her birthday...due to BM of course. So I'd like to say this, to my beautiful stepdaughter---Happy Birthday Trinity...We love you and miss you, and can't wait to see you!  I hope your birthday is the greatest, and know that we are thinking of you on your day! Hopefully you'll get the ultimate birthday gift...Your Daddy.

New year...New decisions

Recently we received some emails from biomom...basically tearing my husband down, letting him know how worthless he is, etc. (All from her perspective and point of view of course.)  These emails obviously bothered my husband a great deal.  He also learned there is another man in the picture, who has taken on the responsibility of his daughter.  This is the man his daughter now calls daddy.  He was also threatened that his not so great past would be used against him in court, and that biomom would "drag her feet", and make sure he spent a fortune in court if that is the path he chose to go. Since these recent emails, the husband has been doing a lot of thinking.  Ultimately, he has decided to just let it go and move on.  I support whatever decision he makes, I just don't feel he is making the right one this time around.  He's tired of the drama, I understand. So am I.  I just feel like if he chooses to walk away, his daughter may never understand why.  I don't want her to blame herself, but her mother is the type that would make her think that way. Her mother is also the type that will falsify things, and make up stories that just aren't true.  Currently, his daughter thinks he's not around because he's 'on drugs', which is not, and has NEVER been the case.  I don't know what to say to him, or what to do.  I don't know if he's making the right decision, but I guess I have to trust his better judgement?  I think he is just emotionally drained, and knows that our family will suffer financially if he continues the fight. I just feel lost. =(

My New Years Resolution...2011

This year is a new year.  This year is the year, that I attempt to become a better human being.  Of course I have the same resolutions as the norm...lose weigh, exercise more, eat better...blah blah.  I am working on those as well, but my main resolution is the greatest of all.  I have decided that being angry is not worth it.  In the past, I have vented against certain people, in a very negative manner...I regret this to the fullest.  I am starting to let more and more, just roll off the shoulders.  I don't feed into the negativity, and I keep everything positive. (For instance, my blog =) )  I am working very hard at all of this. While I know in the end, it isn't going to change anything, at least it will make me feel better as a person.  I know this won't even change her attitude towards me, but it will give me a different one towards her.  I don't want to be mean, or hostile. In fact, I wish nothing more than to get along.  I wish her motives were the same.  Only time will tell I guess. I know there is always hope, and people change....I just hope that day will come sooner than later.  Thanks for listening...and until next time! =)

Mothers be good to your daughters, too.

A lot is going on...

A good friend of mine recently sent me a link, and told me I needed to check it out.  It was to the bio-mom's new husband's Facebook.  On his wall, were various comments in regards to me or my husband.  It was just plain infuriating.  Obviously this man only knows one side of the situation, and that's hers.  He was claiming my stepdaughter as his, because her real father "can't be a man and raise his own child."  It was comments like this that really infuriated me.  Apparently she has only told him, her victim role, side of the story. She hasn't told him the truth. That she assaulted my husband, that she filed false charges against him, that she has had no contact orders placed on him...moved...changed her phone number, etc.  She also emailed me a couple weeks ago, just to rub in our faces that my husband is no longer a subject in her household, and that his daughter doesn't even really remember who he is.  WOW! I am a mother of three.  My two youngest daughters' dad chose to walk out that door, chose to be an alcoholic, and have nothing to do with his daughters.  Even after several attempts by myself!  There is nothing physically wrong with my husband, nothing mentally wrong...no reason at all his daughter should be kept away from him.  I just have to sit and wonder...what on earth is wrong with people!!  And so the battle begins...We finally have the money to retain an attorney, and fight for the rights of my husband...or better yet, the rights of my stepdaughter to have her daddy in her life.  Wish us luck in our fight, as I know when it comes to BM, she plays dirty.  Hopefully all goes well...I just fear that my husband will end up with a broken heart. =(

Dedicated to my step-daughter....

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