My sweet husband made the right, and ultimately best decision. We have hired an attorney, and are proceeding with the custody matter. I can't help but feel some fear, because I know BM is going to drag us through the mud. I know the end results will be worth it, but it's the whole process we're getting ready to go through. It's going to be WWIII. I hope mostly that this won't affect my step daughter, or traumatize her in any way. This is going to be a struggle both financially, and emotionally. We're going to need all the support we can get.
Something else I'd like to bring to light...Tomorrow..Feb. 15, is my stepdaughter's birthday. It's been 2 years since my husband was allowed to be with his daughter on her birthday...due to BM of course. So I'd like to say this, to my beautiful stepdaughter---Happy Birthday Trinity...We love you and miss you, and can't wait to see you! I hope your birthday is the greatest, and know that we are thinking of you on your day! Hopefully you'll get the ultimate birthday gift...Your Daddy.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
New year...New decisions
Recently we received some emails from biomom...basically tearing my husband down, letting him know how worthless he is, etc. (All from her perspective and point of view of course.) These emails obviously bothered my husband a great deal. He also learned there is another man in the picture, who has taken on the responsibility of his daughter. This is the man his daughter now calls daddy. He was also threatened that his not so great past would be used against him in court, and that biomom would "drag her feet", and make sure he spent a fortune in court if that is the path he chose to go. Since these recent emails, the husband has been doing a lot of thinking. Ultimately, he has decided to just let it go and move on. I support whatever decision he makes, I just don't feel he is making the right one this time around. He's tired of the drama, I understand. So am I. I just feel like if he chooses to walk away, his daughter may never understand why. I don't want her to blame herself, but her mother is the type that would make her think that way. Her mother is also the type that will falsify things, and make up stories that just aren't true. Currently, his daughter thinks he's not around because he's 'on drugs', which is not, and has NEVER been the case. I don't know what to say to him, or what to do. I don't know if he's making the right decision, but I guess I have to trust his better judgement? I think he is just emotionally drained, and knows that our family will suffer financially if he continues the fight. I just feel lost. =(
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