Update: GOOD NEWS!

After a long time fighting in court...and still fighting in court, we have finally had a turn in events. We now get EOW visitation with my stepdaughter. We do have to drive the 3 hours both ways, on Fridays AND Sundays, but we get one on one time with her, without anyone overshadowing us.  We will be getting even more time with SD, and when this happens, I'll be sure to update everyone.  It's been a long time coming, and we're very happy with how far we've come. Continue to keep us in your thoughts, as this is still not over, and BM is still not getting any better...If anything her behavior has worsened.

Update: Bad news....

Well, while we have a court order now providing us visitation, I guess that doesn't mean BM has to follow it.  We drove 3 hours to pick SD up on Thanksgiving, as agreed, and BM refused to let us take SD.  She had decided that she was going to keep her, and gave us no notice at all. We missed Thanksgiving with all of our family, because BM insisted we not pick up until 4pm, and then she didn't show up anyways. This weekend was also OUR weekend. BM decided on Friday to change the visitation time, without our knowledge or consent, and did not show up at the time in the CO. Monday, we have to file a contempt motion, because visitation did not go through today. BM waited to call and text us back, until almost 2 hours after the scheduled pick up time, knowing that we were probably already on our way home. It was a horrible Thanksgiving, and a bad weekend. I'm just glad this time, there is a CO in place, and it is BM who is not following it.

**UPDATE**Good news attached!!!

Alright, so it's been a crazy last few months.  BM finally gave up in court, giving us every other weekend visitations, without supervision, in our home state.  This just started withing the last couple of weeks.  Although we are getting visitation, and everything is running smoothly as far as that goes, we are still having issues with BM.  She called the other day, and told my husband if he really wanted to see his daughter, he could pick her up EVERY weekend. (We would love that...if we could afford that)  I'm pretty sure BM just needs a babysitter, as she's been having issues with her husband.  Her husband left her a couple of weeks ago, which sent her after my husband.  In all of her fake kindness and sweetness, she took away child support.  She is mad now that didn't work in her favor, so she's messing with the visitation schedule and parenting plan.  It's never a dull moment where she is concerned, let me tell you.  All in all, time is spent well with my step daughter, and my husbands attitude has changed tremendously.  We get to spend our first Thanksgiving together, all of us, as a family this year. Things are good.

An update for those of you who have been wondering...

So we did hire an attorney. We did take things to court. At our last court date BM would not agree on anything. She is willing to give my husband some parenting time, but only in the state she lives in, and only if her mother supervises. Of course there is no reason my step daughter should not be allowed to cross state lines with us, and of course HER mother supervising obviously is not going to work. Things seem to be in our favor as of now. The judge told BM there is no reason for her to continue to disagree on EVERYTHING, and by doing so she is just making herself look bad.  Things are set for mediation, and there is a court review on June 7th.  We have already drafted our plan for mediation, and we are "giving" a little to "get" a little.  Recently we also found out that BM's new husband(a man she married only 2 weeks after kicking another one out)has been arrested 40-50 times(not an exaggeration) for domestic violence.  A little concerned about that, but that's all going to be brought up in mediation.  When brought up in court last week, BM had her attorney ask if my husband was willing to just sign his rights over. (Of course our attorney said "That's not going to fly") Right now we are just waiting, and watching. I'm confident, and so is my husband. We hope to soon be reunited with my step daughter. Please keep us in your prayers, and keep those fingers crossed!

Just making some things clear...

Due to recent posts, I figured I would just go ahead and touch base on a few things. This is MY page. It is NOT here to stalk, belittle, or argue with people. If you read the entire blog, you will know that this is a POSITIVE outlet.  Remember, no matter what you post on my page, I have the power to DELETE it!

Does it ever get old??...

Recently a friend of mine alerted me that BM was posting on a public forum wall, from her Facebook.  I checked it out, and this is what I read:

Is it the the jealousy of the new wifes or is it truly the babymamas? I FILL SORRY FOR THE CHILDREN IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ISSUE?SOME WOMEN DONT KNOW HOW TO MIND THERE BUSINESS AND THE WIFEY HAS NO BUSINESS WITH THE CHILDREN INVOLVED,BECOMEN A WIFE DONT MAKE YOU THE BOMB WHAT MAKES YOU THE BOMB IS RAISING THE BABY THAT SOMEONE DECIDED TO WALK AWAY FROM,SO YOU WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND BEST.

This is the kind of stuff that really irks me, and always triggers a negative response from me.  Of course, that is not going to happen, because I no longer respond negatively, or at all for that matter to anything she has to say.  Let me just say this:

No. I am not jealous.  I have no reason to be. Yes, it is you, it always has been.  I really hope you grow up, and realize the drama you have and continue to cause one day.  If you feel sorry for the children, then do something about it.  You don't have to continue on will all of the BS.  I mind my own business, it is you that is constantly starting drama, and talking about ME!  Also, my  husband IS my business, as well as anything that affects him.  I don't think, and have never said I was "the bomb".  Nobody decided to "walk away from" their baby either. We have been fighting you in court for 2 years now, and are still continuing to fight.  She'll know that someday.  You are welcome to think of me as second best, but just remember this. The man you are so continuously jealous over, and can't let go of the fact that he left you...He married ME. He lives with ME.  He is with ME.  I support what ever decisions he makes.  We love each other, and have an awesome life together...If that's second best, I'll take it!!

Making the right decisions...

My sweet husband made the right, and ultimately best decision. We have hired an attorney, and are proceeding with the custody matter.  I can't help but feel some fear, because I know BM is going to drag us through the mud.  I know the end results will be worth it, but it's the whole process we're getting ready to go through. It's going to be WWIII.  I hope mostly that this won't affect my step daughter, or traumatize her in any way.  This is going to be a struggle both financially, and emotionally.  We're going to need all the support we can get.

Something else I'd like to bring to light...Tomorrow..Feb. 15, is my stepdaughter's birthday.  It's been 2 years since my husband was allowed to be with his daughter on her birthday...due to BM of course. So I'd like to say this, to my beautiful stepdaughter---Happy Birthday Trinity...We love you and miss you, and can't wait to see you!  I hope your birthday is the greatest, and know that we are thinking of you on your day! Hopefully you'll get the ultimate birthday gift...Your Daddy.